Ruth 1:16
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me."I have no idea what this blog is about. I've thought about it for a couple of years now and there is no way I can come up with a suitable label, definition or goal.
This blog for me personally is one I share with my family and friends so they can see how life is treating us in Florida, so far away from Texas and St. Louis where our loved ones are.
But mostly, after thinking it through, this blog is about the life of a God fearing family, finding joy and sharing it with friends, no matter how horrible it feels when life stabs us in the chest. Christ lives in me, and I'm going to be happy and rejoice and count my blessings. No kicking dogs when they're down around here. We're gonna put a smile on our face, a melody in our voice and our big girl panties on...hold our heads high and let our lights shine.
So as depressing as my blog has been this year....a full head of gray hair for my poor husband now...I'm still going to share the good, the bad and the ugly. I am, with great anticipation, looking forward to a new year, hopefully filled with as little heartache as possible. If it can't be avoided, I'm still going to rejoice, albeit, probably faking a lot of it. LOL
For you to have a complete understanding of why my mother-in-law meant so much to me, would require an epic novel of the tragedy, sickness, abuse, dysfunction, heartache...blah, blah, blah...which was my life for the first 24 years. Let's just say...it was as bad as it could get...pretty dog gone bad. I don't really ever want to go there again, and certainly not in public here. Let me just say that my mother-in-law was God's greatest mercy shown to me, these last 15 years. Through her, I saw what REAL fruits of the spirit were. I saw what it was like to live without bitterness, even when wicked people did mean things to you. I saw how she lived exploding with joy and love for everyone. She never spoke ill of anyone. Read her Bible everyday, all the way through, year after year. She was far from perfect, but she was a saint. God showed me what being a healthy, saved Christian was all about, contrasting her with what I grew up with. Does that make any sense?
I thought I would post a picture or two about where I was exactly this time last year. I was sitting with my mother-in-law...my precious Naomi...in ICU. I would not leave her side and didn't want to go home that night. I was mad to leave around 11:00 pm and looking back, I wish I had done what I wanted, which was to spend the night with her, instead of letting people boss me around...me the people pleaser...those days are over. I wanted so badly to curl up in bed with her and love on her, but didn't want to get in trouble with the nurses, as it was ICU and all, and you want to be on your best behavior. If I had known she was going to die, I would have done it. One last cuddle. I miss her sweet smell and her cheerful smile and her tender, delicate manicured hands when she held my hand in return.
By tomorrow morning, around 10:30 am, she'll leave us and my sister-in-law and I will be with her.
I'm the family historian and I'm notoriously guilty of taking pictures of the worst times of our life. I don't offend my family, hopefully, but I discreetly take pictures of the sad or bad (not the grotesque), just for history's sake, but also as a memorial, so we can look back at the blessings we received during that pain.
Looking at pictures today, I remember something so special and so tender. I hadn't thought of it once, since last year and it made me feel good this morning.
Allyson made a scrappy stocking using up some of my Christmas scraps to hang in grandma's room. We convinced ourselves she was going to make it. There were pictures of all the grandchildren and great grandchildren hanging on the wall in front of her so when she woke up she could see the love. Ally hung her stocking there too. Grandma woke up and pointed at the wall. We all pointed to different pictures trying to understand which one she wanted. She couldn't speak. Lastly we pointed to the stocking and that's what she wanted. Being a hand piecer and a hand quilter forever, we should have guessed the stocking first. LOL She wanted to hold it.
She snuggled with it like a child does a stuffed animal or a treasured blanky all night. It was in her bed when we got there the next morning. 20 minutes later, God called her home. I'm so glad my daughter had thought to make something so last minute and silly for Grandma's Christmas ICU room. Turned out not to be so silly after all.


This is one of my favorite pictures. It's sad I guess, but I love it. I sat and crocheted for 12 hours, watching her chest go up and down all day, thinking her little body suuuuuure was fighting hard and thinking, this doesn't look so good, BUT she's gonna make it, I just know!!!! I watched her heart beat on that monitor all day long, until family came in and told me it was time to leave. I also was crocheting with my own grandma's hook, the one I first learned on. I was hoping it was going to be a lucky crochet hook and pass blessings on to my sick mother. Ho hum.
Watching her fight to live all day, I kept thinking, "My sassy native Texan mother-in-law is going to be mad as a wet hen if she dies in Illinois." She wanted to die with her boots on, dadgummit. I guess it doesn't matter where you physically are when you die, as long as your spiritually in the right place. *sigh*
I love this picture because I see her heart beating on the monitor. She was alive, God love her. It was a beautiful day I spent in silence with her and my God. I'll forever be grateful he let her live long enough for us to get there and be with her one last 24 hour day.

So I'm sorry if this was depressing or made no sense. I wanted it to be more articulate than this. My mother-in-law is deserving of better prose. My mind is fuzzy with rambling thoughts and grief. I just felt a need to pour my heart out a little. Posts get better after this. After all....it's Christmas. We're gonna be happy, even if it kills us.
Oops. I take that back.